Have to vent

Ok. I have to vent or I'm going to go crazy.

We're selling our house and are moving in 2 days. When negotiating the price of our house, we finally compromised with the potential buyers for a price 1K lower than we paid a year ago and 1K lower than the appraisal we had done at that time.

Fast foward to last week. Their appraisal was done and it came back 6K lower then the one we had done a year ago. After much gnashing of teeth with the mortgage company, it seems our appraiser way over-appraised the house and it's not really worth that much after all. So, we were duped I guess. So, down goes the purchase price 5K for the buyers. Great news for them, not so great for us as we'll have to pay in at closing now. That's fine, but we're dropping the 1K we were going to pay for them at closing.

that's what we thought. Nope, their realtor will not let us out of the contributing towards closing costs. On top of that, they want a $375 home warranty.

The next cannon to be shot at us was the inspection. Their inspector found trivial things wrong with the house......electrical stuff mostly, but they want it ALL fixed. Even things that he just recommended be inspected or checked out, they want it done.....at our expense. So, we've fixed what we can ourselves, cause we have no money to pay for all this with after the news that we had to pay in at closing. You'd think they'd be more than happy to do the rest themselves.

Well, they would. But their realtor is INSISTING that we have it fixed or they're backing out.

So, here we sit, getting the raw end of the deal on this. They, however, are being blessed beyond measure. 5K less for the house, help with closing costs, less down payment, new wiring, and much much more.

I'm trying to be content no matter the circumstance, but it sure is hard!

WE HAVE A REFERRAL!

On the morning of July 6, the last thing I was thinking about was the adoption. OK, so maybe it was somewhere floating around in my mind, but I had resigned myself to the fact that it may take a few more weeks that previously thought. There just weren't any girls being born. Several referrals had gone out in the past few weeks, but they were all baby boys. Now, I love boys, but in my heart, I knew that God intended for us to adopt a girl. So, I waited.

The boys had been at my parents house for a couple of days so I could get some packing done for our move. My mom brought them back on Wednesday morning and was hanging out for a while waiting for lunch. I was about to sit down on the couch when the phone rang. Thinking it was Kyle, I didn't rush to answer it. When I picked up the phone and saw the 214 area code, I knew it was Traci (our agency director).

I answered and heard the soothing voice on the other end of the phone (Traci really should have been a therapist, her voice is so calm). "Rebecca, this is Traci. How are you?" My heart went to my shoes. Was this "the call", I wondered?

She went on to ask if we had moved yet, and made small chit chat, then said "the reason I'm calling is......." then there was a pause. I thought to myself something's wrong with our paperwork or she's calling to tell me that it's going to be a while to wait.

But then I heard the words "I have a baby girl for you." Now, I had waited for this moment for quite a few months, and thought I had my reaction all planned out.....tears, crying, drama. But, none of that happened. All I could say was "you do?" Then "I'm so excited." Then I think I attacked Traci with hundreds of questions she wasn't prepared to answer.

After my brain started functioning again, I heard her say "I just sent an email to your inbox." I ran to the computer to check it and it couldn't come fast enough even with high-speed internet. I didn't even read the wording in the email, but clicked on the 1st picture. There she was. Her cheeks were so chubby that I had to laugh. All our boys were 6lbs and under, so I'm used to seeing scrawny (is that a Mississippi word?) babies, not chubby ones. As I looked at the the pictures Traci had sent, all I could think was there she is, there she is. It was very surreal.

After getting off the phone with Traci, I called Kyle at work. He had pretty much the same reaction....just complete dumbfoundness I think. Not really knowing what to say. After a couple of days, it began to sink in that she was here. This was (or will be) our baby girl.

Now, I sit wondering what she's doing, if she's eating enough or too much, does she spit up a lot, is she healthy, are they taking care of her, does she sleep well, does she cry alot...and on and on and on.

But for now, I'll just wonder. On July 29, I'll get to meet this precious child and hold her. For a week, I will spend every moment with her, learning her personality, her schedule, and find out the answers to my many questions. I'll meet her foster mom and confirm that she is, indeed, being well taken care of. I'll get a few fleeting days to spend with this soon to be daughter of mine. Then I'll give her back to the foster mom and come home, left to wonder again. But, just for those days, I'll have the wonder of watching her and praising God that from the beginning of time, He planned this child to be ours.

Our 171H has arrived! That is our USCIS (immigration, basically) approval. We are now ready to accept a referral. I think we're probably behind one other family, but there are no baby girls right now....only boys. I love boys, but we already have our hearts full of them! Now, our hearts are ready for a girl. So, we may wait 2 weeks or 2 months, but we know that God's timing is perfect.

On another side of things..........we're moving back to Georgia. We are so excited, and actually have a couple very interested in buying our house here. We should know something about that tonight or tomorrow.

So, our lives are far from dull right now. The boys are doing great. They are busy, busy, busy and very much "all boys." But, we love it.

We were fingerprinted yesterday for USCIS. This is our last step, basically. In 4-6 weeks, we should get our 171H, which is immigration approval.

Our documents were going to be on their way to Miami, the Guatemalan consulate. However, one of our notaries stamp and signature did not match the way her name was listed with the secretary of state. So, we are having to redo 12 of those documents. We were lucky that she was in Kyle's office and we had not paid for them! Once those are redone and our 171H comes in, we will be "paper ready."

So, we are looking for a referral of a baby girl sometime in June!

Our experience yesterday was such an answer to prayer! Our appointment wasn't until next week, but we will be out of town. So, I called the office in New Orleans to see if we could come earlier. I was given a very emphatic NO. Frustrated that it might be weeks before we could be fingerprinted again, I called back a while later and was told by a different person, the supervisor, that it would be completely fine. We knew that it was risky to drive to NO yesterday as whether we got to be fingerprinted early or not was at the mercy of the lady at the desk.

There was no one at the desk when we first arrived. After a few minutes, though, a lady came out and said that the regular worker was on break and she would help the next person in line. When I told her our situation, she gladly cooperated. 5 minutes after getting our information and giving us a number, the regular person returned from break. By looking at her nametag I realized it was the same person who had told me NO over the phone. We could see that God had answered our prayers by her being on break for the 10 minutes that it took to get us ready for fingerprinting!

We look forward to watching Him work in many more ways throughout this process.

Weekly Update

We are waiting on our homestudy report. All of our visits are finished, but our social worker has not finished writing the report. She said it would be finished by last week, but we are still waiting. As soon as we get that, though, we can send our paperwork off on it's journey.

We are getting closer, and I'm so excited!

In addition to adoption stuff, we are still busy. Lucas has started t-ball. He had his first game last Saturday. It was so cute! He thought he was big time. His team is on the Braves team, and he thinks he's a pro! As soon as his team got out on the field, he started stretching and doing jumping jacks! He wouldn't even smile at us as he went to bat. Just this stern, seriuos look on his face! HIs team also has a problem with catching the ball. Instead of waiting to see who the ball is closest to, the whole team chases it down then tackles it. So, we'd have to wait to see who emereged from the pile of kids with the ball.

Jacob is sick. 4th day of fever. He's on antibiotics, but must not be anything that can cure. I'm just ready for summer and healthy kids!

Ooops. I used his real name. Oh well. Too hard to remember to use fake names for my kids!

I better go check on them. It sure is quiet back there.......

Update

I was informed by a friend that I'm not doing so great a job at keeping updates updated! (and I thank her for the reminder!) So, here's where we stand.

Our last meeting with the social worker was last Wednesday. She told us that she should have the homestudy completed by Friday (4/1). When that is completed, Kyle and I have to take it down to the USCIS office in New Orleans, get fingerprinted and wait for approval from them (immigration). We will also have all of our paperwork together and sent off to the secretary of state (in MS) 1st, then to the embassy in Miami 2nd. Once all that is back in our hands, we send it to our agency in TX and wait for a referral. I am estimating that by the end of May or beginning of June we should know who our daughter is, medical background, and birthdate. We will get to go visit soon after that for a few days. Then, 3-5 months later, we will be able to bring her home!

We will also begin applying for grants after our homestudy is complete. Please keep praying for this. We are in huge need of financial help and haven't been hearing very many people actually getting these grants. But, they go to someone, so we are praying that God will guide us to at least one that can help out with the cost.

Keep checking back. I promise to be more faithful in keeping this up!

We completed our medical forms today. I have to go back tomorrow to get the kids redone. I took their letters up there, but forgot it was supposed to be on the dr.'s letterhead! I thought I was on top of all this, but that small detail slipped my mind!

We'll also get fingerprinted to send to the state for police clearance. AFter that, we'll just be waiting on the homestudy to be finished (which I wish the social worker would get done with), and our FBI/state clearance letters. Then, this paperwork should be done with!

It's getting closer!

I new I'd be a slacker on keeping this up-to-date. We are well underway with the paperchase of adoption. I sent our I-600A last week, but just found out it will probably be sent back to us. Seems the New Orleans USCIS needs the completed homestudy to accompany the application. we'll wait and see. The good news is we can take it down there in person and be fingerprinted the same day!

I send our FBI clearance off today and will take care of our medical forms, state police clearance, and witness statements next week. The only thing we'll be waiting on next week is our social worker to finish up our homestudy and the clearance letters to return.

I know waiting will only get harder as we go along. I'm so impatient and want everything done yesterday.

We're still not sure how the money is going to come, but are trusting that God will provide. I'm brainstorming different fundraising ideas, but not sure that they would be supported too well. I'm also hesitant about asking people for money, but we'll do what we have to do!

Well, time has passed and Ben is potty trained......halfway. I won't go into detail about which half, but it's the yuckier half of the two halves that have to go into the potty. I'm not fretting about it, I figure he'll get it when he gets it.



Adoption is coming along. We have a meeting to attend in 2 more weeks, then the process will really take off. I am getting very excited and impatient and there's still so much time left.



We are still trying to adjust to our new home. My hubby is looking at a job back in our old town, but I'm not holding my breath. It would be great if we went back, but maybe this is where God wants us for now? I still don't have a peace about it one way or the other.